Birth Mom Blog

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Birth Mom Missions provides a much needed (and often overlooked) service to women who have placed their child for adoption. We offer guidance before, after and during the adoption process to all women who ask, regardless of their choices made. Much of this is done through phone conversations, emails, letters, prayers and social networking correspondence. We are dedicated to providing nonjudgmental assistance to any woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and guidance for those who choose to become birth mothers.

We offer local supportive groups (growing nationwide) made up of women who have been through the similar experiences. We want to provide young women in the future with the knowledge and support that we wish we had from a birth mother. Someone who knew what it was like and was unbiased. Someone to talk to us, inform us, guide us, emphasize with us, and answer all our silly questions. One goal of the mission is to someday see every pregnant woman that is considering adoption,to have at least one birth mother mentor.

The mission touches the lives of those adopted, adoptive parents, hopeful adoptive parents, pregnant woman at risk, the unborn, and other parts of society in ways yet to be seen.

We want to provide other women in the future with the knowledge and support that we wish we could have had from a birth mother….someone who knew what it was like and was unbiased in providing their own opinions. Someone to talk to us, inform us, guide us, empathize with us, and answer all our questions.

There is a much needed service to women who have placed their child for adoption. There is also an overlooked service to single pregnant woman (one that is pro-life and not on board with an adoption agency) Many women may find best to raise the child alone. There are also many cases where adoption is best for the mother, child, and new parents. In most cases, everyone maintaining a loving relationship with the child is often the best option. The goal is to love our children in the best way possible, whether that means with or without us involved in their life. No matter what the result of a woman’s adoption decision or her opinion on it today, this is meant to be a place for her to come and know that she is loved and has a special place in our hearts.

The mission touches the lives of those adopted, adoptive parents, hopeful adoptive parents, pregnant woman at risk, and the unborn and other parts of society in ways yet to be seen.

Just a few goals:
1. To support loving, child centered, adoption.
2. support birth mom’s after adoptions by bringing them together with prayer group & network.
3. Spread Word about Birth Mother’s Day & other Adoption holidays
4. To defend the defenseless & innocent. Children are God’s greatest gift to us and as Mother Teresa says, “Jesus in disguise”
5. Explain adoption today & the many options available to young women besides abortion. And that no child is unwanted & plenty of couples to adopt!
6. to change the misconceptions of a birth mother’s motivation. To show birth mother’s never abandoned child but want the best for them.
7. Make sure every adoptee knows they are loved by many. And their birth mother thinks of them everyday, always!
8. 8) Persuade People that Rape Does Not Justify Abortion.. Two wrongs don’t make a right., but an innocent child sure can!

We want to help mother’s of every shape and form. As a birth mother grows in her understanding of what adoption means to her, we too will always be growing and discovering more about our mission and it’s goals. No birth mom fits a cookie cutter image, and the mission is a chance for all of use to get together share stories and bounce off ideas for the future of adoption. It won’t be an easy task and there are many opposing positions on adoption out there that we my come in conflict with. We will confront every situation with a mother’s loving heart that only wants to do what is right.

We provide a service to women that we wish we had available to us. There are many adoption professionals and loving caring people available to guide us through the adoption process. But at the end of the day… I personally had many questions I just needed another birth mother to answer for me! And more than one birth mom’s opinion too! There are so many instances where a birth mother must “go it alone” and her experience through adoption is crucial to how she is able to integrate into her life afterward in a healthy way.

We want adoptive patents to know birth moms are not to be feared and we want most of all to let our children know how much they are loved by us. I started this mission as a way of honoring my daughter for who she is and everything she is teaching me about life. She was meant to exist because God had planned her from the beginning. Every pregnancy is a gift of life, no matter how unplanned it may be or if rape occurred. Her legacy will be much more than she was originally given credit for as “just a fetus.” I too struggled with the choice of abortion and luckily I overcame the alluring temptation, promoted by the abortion industry, of a quick fix. She deserved so much more than that. She deserved and is living that life now. This is for her.

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(options to birthmom: lifemom, firstmom, tummymom, etc…In actuality most birth moms of adoption don’t really care what they are called by the adoptive family and others….as long as they are called.)

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Facebook Page:

http://www.facebook.com/adoptionsupport

Another goal of Birth Mom Missions is to increase media awareness of Birth Mother’s day (set in 1990 as the day before mother’s day each year)

(options to birthmom: lifemom, firstmom, tummymom, etc…In actuality most birth moms of adoption don’t really care what they are called by the adoptive family and others….as long as they are called.)

The 3 main focuses within Birth Mom Missions are:

1. Support & Advice for Women pre-and post adoption. Sometimes people surrounding adoption can unintentionally cause a birth parent to feel guilty or shameful. Unfortunately, guilt and shame seem to be an ever-evolving presence in the life of a parent who has placed a child for adoption. While no two birth parents are going to experience guilt in the same way throughout their entire journeys, birth parents should find comfort in knowing that some other birth parent, somewhere on this Earth, has felt something similar. While our experiences are unique, the issue is not. You are never alone.

A few of the services we will provide: local & nationwide supportive groups, online live meetings, prayer groups, monthly newsletters, triad forums, a 1-800 phone support line (maintained only by real birth mother’s, who have been in a similar situation before,) worksheets and references for before and after to help women process the life changing events that have just occurred, and much more. We also help birth mom’s in communication activities with the adoptive parents and help them vocalize all their important questions early.. It can be very intimidating making that first call to tell a couple they are about to have a family. (Many questions you might not think of, with all you have going on,) Most importantly a community of women and supporters of Birth Mom Missions praying for you through it all.

2. Birth Mom’s for Life: Mother Teresa says it best, “I will tell you something beautiful. We are fighting abortion by adoption…” Pregnancy is an emotional time for a woman, even under the best of circumstances. She needs someone to lean on, particularly when she is young and inexperienced. In today’s society, the “easy” solution of abortion becomes a constant temptation during this time.  Our mission is to cherish children, encourage families, and tell women of the experiences we have had and witnessed We offer peer mentoring and support to all mothers who are expecting through pregnancy or adoption, or those who are experiencing the pain of miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, or infertility. Volunteers offer support in the form of phone calls, cards, prayers, visits, emails, and educational resources

We advocate adoption as an REAL option and go to schools and other locations to spread the word about what an honor it is to be able to give the gift of life! Although it may be hard at sometimes to be a birth mother, we believe it is much harder to suffer an abortion. Some things, like a life, are never easily forgotten.

3. Adoption Celebration, Advocacy & Reform- We want to spread how wonderful adoption can be, but we see some things that could be changed for the better.  We were able to see a lot from our perspective, living in an adoption dorm. We also seek to make sure every adoptee knows they are loved and missed everyday. Because the worst pain is that of feeling unwanted. They were always wanted. And finally, we provide a resource for the community to see what real birth mother’s are like (instead of the “madefor TV version” many are exposed to) We promote Birth Mother’s Day every year, Answering Adoptive parents questions they may have, and alieviate some fears on all sides.

We have a few products for birth mom’s at http://zazzle.com/birthmoms for sell, but mainly we would appreciate if you would help us spread the word by joining or telling someone about BirthMomMissions.Com. You can becoming a fan of our facebook page, or many other groups listed on this page.

http://www.facebook.com/adoptionsupport

http://facebook.com/adoptionstory

We are just getting started so bear with until we iron out the kinks. Any advice or suggestions are always appreciated. In the first few weeks of our mission, we experienced some domain issues and may have lost some emails sent to us. If you are one of those who never got a reply, please send again and we truly apologize for not responding sooner.

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The truth remains that birth parents have parted with a huge piece of themselves. Even the most independent woman will tell you that having a child changes a woman’s view of herself. Placing that child is akin to letting go of a piece of yourself.

The wording often offered up to birth parents searching for some answers comes out something like, “Well, it’s for the best.” Of course, birth parents can then internalize that well-intentioned placating sentence and start to wonder what is fundamentally wrong with them that their child is better off elsewhere.

Why are we needed? One reason is:

Every year approximately 1.3 million single women become unexpectedly pregnant. Sadly, less than two percent choose the loving option of adoption, while two million couples eagerly wait to adopt children.

(More on Mission Page)

Donations:

Donations are graciously accepted. We hate asking for them though, which is something we will probably have to learn how to do in order to exist!  We strive to do what is good and we feel God is calling us to do…if we don’t have the funds needed at any certain time, it can be a good indicator that we were not going in the right direction!

If you want to donate, we would greatly appreciate any donations no matter how small! All donors are honored in some way and have full knowledge of where ther money went and how (or who) there money is helping. It is not just a tax deductable charity donation, it’s a gift that saves lives and gives women courage and hope in times of weakness. Right now, our 24/7 Crisis pregnancy Hotline and Post Adoption Support gets the most activity and so any small funds would go directly towards that payment. Our online presence is the next area item difficult costly to maintain. We offer individual counseling and spread awareness and love for all those involved in the adoption triad! Let us know how we can help you or if you are interested in getting more involved. Join one of our MANY groups or social networks!